Once I opened the article and saw it was posted on the blog Total Sorority Move, I had a feeling this had great potential to go downhill fast. Unfortunately, I was right. When I first read through this article, I was appalled. Are there actually girls who think this way? And the more I thought about it, the more my shock turned into disappointment.
The article opens with a quick recap of the “typical” college experience with the words “You knew it before” preceding each description. After the first paragraph, I still wasn’t quite sure what this article was all about, so I kept reading. The next line reveals what “you knew”- college would be the best four years of your life. Now, while I am enjoying every minute of my time in college, I would suggest that these will not be the best four years of my life, but to each his own. As I read a little further, the author talked a little more about why these would be the best years of your life. And to my amazement, THESE are the reasons she gave:
It’s a time to wake up at 6 a.m. and bang on pots and pans as you take shots in celebration of homecoming. It’s a time to fall in lust with all the wrong guys. It’s the time, if there ever is one, for one-night stands. It’s the time to go streaking. It’s the the time to dance on tables. It’s the time to do everything your parents told you never to do, and everything society will eventually tell you never to do again.”
I guess I should not have been shocked reading this, but I was. Yes, I know all of these things happen at colleges. But to see someone endorse and encourage these behaviors? I was shocked.
As I continued reading, I found where the author made the connection to the title. In the next paragraph, she outlines how repulsive it is that girls look at other girls who are participating in the above behaviors and offer a sarcastic “That’s classy…” as the ultimate insult. She goes so far as to say that the individuals taking a stand against these behaviors are the true examples of what not being classy looks like. After seeing that assertion, I wasn’t sure the article could get any worse, but it did.
I find it interesting that every person I have ever heard offer the advice “You only have 4 years to be young and dumb. Take advantage of it” are, ironically, still young (and dumb). The adults I have talked to have much different advice to offer. I’m going to go out on a limb and assume this is probably because they have seen the aftermath of these choices. They have seen “lots and lots of alcohol” lead to addictions that destroy lives. They’ve seen “one-night stands” turn into STDs and an unwanted pregnancy that alter the rest of your life. They’ve seen that doing “everything their parents told them not to” got them everywhere they didn’t want to be. They have seen the consequences of their actions play out, and they’re trying to save you and me from experiencing the unnecessary pain.
Not only will avoiding these situations prevent us from experiencing unnecessary pain, but it’s also what God expects from those who call themselves Christians. Paul tells us what God expects of His children in Romans 12:1-2 “I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. And do NOT be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.” Again in Philippians, Paul reiterates what it means to be a Christian. Philippians 1:27 “Only let your conduct be worthy of the Gospel of Christ…” We have a responsibility to represent Christ in this world.
So, no one cares about the things you aren’t doing? False. A lot of people will notice AND appreciate your courage to stand against the things that God stands against. Don’t believe the lies that you’ll regret not making those mistakes. Live your life with integrity. And show the world what being classy is all about. In case you aren’t quite sure what being classy is all about, I’ll let Merriam-Webster’s give you the true definition; Classy- showing impressive character, having or reflecting high standards of behavior, admirably skillful and graceful.