When Loving like Jesus Looks Different Than You Think

If you have had any connections to the outside world in the past week, you know some major changes have occurred in our Nation. And I didn’t want to address them.

As a non-confrontational, introvert, there aren’t many things I hate more than stirring the pot, causing arguments, and stepping on toes. I don’t want to call you out or upset you. I don’t want to be the cause of hurt feelings.

So I planned on keeping my thoughts to myself and remaining silent on the issues at hand.

But what I hate more than the idea of stirring up arguments, is the thought of having to answer My God one day on some tough questions:

“Where were you when my Words weren’t being defended?” “What were you doing when the world was dictating what was right and wrong?” “Why did you sit idly by?” “Why didn’t you speak out for Me?” “Why didn’t you FIGHT for Me?”

The longer I sat on my hands, quietly observing, the more I saw Christ’s very identity being twisted, marred, and distorted to fit every different agenda.

“Love the sinner, hate the sin.” “Win them over with love.” “Never judge. Just love.” “Love wins.” “Love like Jesus.”

Our society today gets a lot of things wrong. We have a long list of ways we have missed the mark in every way. But one thing we seem to understand, is that Christ loved.

He loved well. In fact, He loved with the greatest love to ever walk the face of the earth.

“Greater love has no one than this, that one lay down his life for his friends.” – John 15:13

In keeping with Christ’s example, we are called to love one another.

“Live a life filled with love, following the example of Christ. He loved us and offered himself as a sacrifice for us, a pleasing aroma to God.” – Ephesians 5:2

The command to love seems fairly simple. But what does it really look like to love like Jesus when it comes to dealing with sin?

In light of the recent decision by the Supreme Court, it seems a mass amount of believers have turned “Speak the truth in love…” (Ephesians 4:15) into “Just love.”

The problem with the idea of “Just loving” is it’s not Biblical. It’s not even Christ-like.

Yes, Christ showed loved without partiality. The greatest of love. But have we forgotten what happened in the temple with the money changers?

“In the Temple area he saw merchants selling cattle, sheep, and doves for sacrifices; he also saw dealers at tables exchanging foreign money. Jesus made a whip from some ropes and chased them all out of the Temple. He drove out the sheep and cattle, scattered the money changers’ coins over the floor, and turned over their tables. Then, going over to the people who sold doves, he told them ‘Get these things out of here. Stop turning my Father’s house into a marketplace!'”

The people were distorting His Father’s intentions for the Temple. And Jesus didn’t stand for it. He acted immediately and forcefully. There was no question about Christ’s opinion of the events at hand.

Did this incidence diminish the love Christ had for the people? Certainly not. But he didn’t sit idly by, trying to love without offending. He got angry when His Father’s laws were disrespected. He turned the tables over, a violent display of disapproval. He spoke up for what was against His Father’s will. He took a stand, and He made it known.

When the woman caught in adultery was brought before Him, He showed her love and compassion. But Christ told her to go, and sin no more. He didn’t simply overlook her sin. He didn’t brush it under the rug, or seek to “just love her.” He showed love, while addressing the sin. Because He loved her too much to leave her in sin.

After all, what kind of love comforts others with a lie? Certainly not a love I want shown to me.

Homosexuality is a sin. No greater or less than the sins every one of us commits. But the truth remains, it is a sin. Sin separates us from God. Homosexual marriage is the blatant decision to live your life everyday in defiance of God’s commands. And living in sin leads to eternal punishment.

It’s harsh. It’s not a fun stance to take. But it’s the stance we are called to take as Christians.

But taking a stance against sin doesn’t equate to forsaking love. Quite the opposite, actually.

So I will seek to follow Christ’s example to love you in your sin, whether it be homosexuality or any number of other sins. But I won’t comfort you with a lie. I won’t overlook it, sweep it under the rug, or pretend you’re ok.

Jesus got angry when His Father’s laws were disrespected. And we have a right to be angry too. But be angry and sin not. Speak the truth, but choose your words carefully. Always with grace, seasoned with salt.

I want to love like Jesus. But I want to really love like Jesus.

Jesus loved fiercely. He loved with the greatest love ever to walk the earth. But He loved those souls too much to leave them in their sin with the impression they were okay. He loved them too much to approve, accept, and encourage behavior that His Father will punish. He loved well. But He didn’t love wrong.


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